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Need some advice when things aren’t going as expected? Want to share a potty training tip with other parents? This is the place to be! Choose from the four categories below and find all you need to know.

  • The Big Finish to Potty Training

    The Big Finish to Potty Training

    Potty training is pretty exciting in the beginning. But what to do when the thrill is gone; when it’s not so exciting to interrupt a fun activity to go to the potty; when wearing diapers seems to be as easy as anything else? There are plenty of activities to maintain your child’s interest in training and other techniques to keep them aiming for the “Big Finish.”

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  • Refusing to Use the Potty – My Tips for Success

    Refusing to Use the Potty – My Tips for Success

    Do you hear “No” a lot these days? Your toddler can’t help it — saying no is their first step on the road to independence. It sure makes potty training complicated, though. Keep these tips in mind while you’re dealing with a defiant toddler.

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  • Getting Potty Training Advice

    Getting Potty Training Advice

    Now that we’re living in the information era, parents are turning increasingly to the Internet for advice on how to help a child potty train successfully. Here are some tips for finding credible and trustworthy advice.

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  • Recognizing the Urge

    Recognizing the Urge

    Parents usually recognize when their child has to go to the bathroom (the wiggle, the crossed legs.) The trick is turning those signals into teachable moments so your child recognizes that what’s going on can go into the potty!

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  • Potty Training During the Holiday Rush

    Potty Training During the Holiday Rush

    With guests visiting from out of town and families taking the festivities on the road, potty training can be especially difficult around the holidays. If you are in the midst of training, there are ways to help ensure that the hectic holidays can still lead to potty training success.

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  • Regression is Normal!

    Regression is Normal!

    It’s one of the most frustrating aspects of potty training: Your toddler has been in underwear for weeks when suddenly he or she begins to have accidents. But don’t worry — you can get back on track with training despite a bout of regression.

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  • Potty Training and Bedwetting – What’s the Difference?

    Potty Training and Bedwetting – What’s the Difference?

    As a pediatrician and mom, I have spent numerous hours listening to other moms' concerns about potty training. There are many misconceptions about achieving daytime and nighttime dryness in children and understanding when a child is fully potty trained.

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Recognizing the Urge

Recognizing the Urge

by Kelly D. Burgess

Parents usually recognize when their child has to go to the bathroom (the wiggle, the crossed legs). The trick is turning those signals into teachable moments so your child recognizes that what’s going on can go into the potty!

Wiggles and Giggles

Christine Louise Hohlbaum, an American living in Paunzhausen, Germany, says both of her children, a boy and a girl, potty trained easily and were completely trained by 25 months. She says she really focused on helping them understand their bodies’ signals.

“I would ask them frequently if they had to go,” says Hohlbaum. “After a while, they recognized the signals their bodies were giving them. The ‘pee pee dance’ helps, too. I would ask, ‘If you wiggle, do you feel you might have to pee?’ Believe me, 2-year-olds love it!”

Dr. Linda Sonna, a psychologist, public speaker and author of The Everything Potty Training Book (Adams Media Corporation, 2002), suggests other clues a parent can pick up on to help their children recognize when they have to go, such as smell.

“A child will often pass gas before a bowel movement,” says Dr. Sonna. “This is a chance for the parent to point out that it smells like they have to go to the bathroom. These things help children establish connections.”

Don’t forget that imitation is definitely the sincerest form of flattery when it comes to your children. Telling your children when you feel like you have to pee or have a bowel movement is important modeling to help them understand how adults “decide” when they have to go, says Valre Welch, a pediatric nurse practitioner for Children’s Urology of Virginia.

It’s also important, notes Welch, for children to be monitored for urges often enough to determine that they’re not trying to hold their urine or bowel movements in order to please their parent or caregiver. In other words, praise them for going on the potty but not necessarily for staying dry or clean. “Holding it” can lead to urinary tract infections (especially in girls) and other problems. Catching your child when she has the urge is the best way to help her realize she has control over her bodily functions.

Ready ... or Not?

One thing Welch knows as an expert and Hohlbaum knows from her expert “mom” experience is that children need to be mature enough to understand what their bodies are trying to tell them. If they aren’t, all the role-modeling and encouragement in the world aren’t going to help with training.

“The biggest issue with toilet training is just waiting until the child is actually ready so they truly recognize what’s going on and it’s not just the parents that are trained,” says Welch. “Also, get your caregiver and anyone else who is involved with your children to approach potty training the way you do, so there’s consistency for the child.”

From there, gentle encouragement and reinforcement are the keys to stress-free training. Welch suggests using a small potty chair rather than one that attaches to the big toilet. She says children seem to like the stability of having their feet on the floor.

Hohlbaum has a number of suggestions, including:

  • Use a kid-dedicated potty.
  • Offer lots of praise.
  • Gather support from surrounding family and friends.
  • Read a child-friendly potty training book.
  • Use Pull-Ups® Training Pants that are easy for kids to put on and take off by themselves and which Hohlbaum says gave her children their first feeling of “victory.”

Welch agrees with this gentle approach, noting that potty training is not just a question of knowing they have to go. She says other components include language, ability and motivation. For language, decide early on what that’s going to be, whether it’s “pee” or “urine” for urination or “poop” or “BMs” for bowel movements, etc. Use the words you’ve chosen when talking to your children and changing their diapers so they have that language and can communicate with you.

For ability, children need to be able to crawl or walk to the potty, be adept enough to take down their own pants and wipe themselves and re-dress themselves.

As for motivation, every child is different. Some, says Dr. Sonna, may be so sensitive to a dirty diaper that potty training is almost a relief for them. Others may be motivated by older siblings or peers who are already potty trained.

The most important thing to remember is that potty training doesn’t just happen overnight — it takes time and patience. Understanding that your child needs time to perfect this whole potty thing will help everyone have a less stressful experience.