• Never use punishments or threats. If you get frustrated, take a deep breath and try again later.
  • Ignore accidents and negative behavior. Your disapproval will create more negativity. Try to maintain a neutral reaction.
  • Give your child control. Refusals are about the natural need for control. Giving choices — inside and outside of the bathroom — will increase cooperation over the long run.
  • A power struggle means “Back off.” To help him learn to be in control of his body, let your Potty Partner learn at his own pace. Take a break for a few weeks.
  • Boost fruits and veggies. Constipation is the hidden enemy of potty training, and painful poops can trigger resistance. Healthy, fiber-rich food can help if you think your child might be constipated.
  • Use a little reverse psychology. Try this game: Tell your Potty Partner that you have to go potty, and that you get to go first. She just may try to be the winner of the potty race!