Show your Turtle a photo of herself as a baby in diapers. “Look how tiny you were when you were a baby. You still were in diapers. Now you are a bigger girl in Pull-Ups. Next, you’ll be in Big Girl undies, just like Cousin Lily. Maybe one day soon you will want to pick out some undies when we go shopping.” Have her help shop for them if she’s interested, but don’t be surprised if it’s too overwhelming for her. Nonchalantly bring home some cute undies, and let her check them out when she’s ready.

Keep the new undies in the bathroom with her Pull-Ups. Remember that you want to keep the routine as close to identical as possible, so that your child is comfortable. After a few weeks, ask your child if she’s ready to try them. Sometimes, Turtles find it helpful to put their new underwear on over their Pull-Ups as they transition to Big Kid underwear.

When she’s ready, let her know what to anticipate so she can process the experience ahead of time. “Pretty soon you are going to want to try this new underwear. Yay! When you wear undies, it will be like Pull-Ups, but it may feel a bit different on the inside. Pull-Ups keep the pee in, but when you wear underwear, if you don’t make it to the toilet in time, the pee will drip down your legs. That happens sometimes when kids are learning to use the potty. It’s OK.”

Offer occasional suggestions to your Turtle about using undies, but allow your Turtle to wear Pull-Ups as long as she likes. Pushing a Turtle to progress faster than she is ready can cause resistance. Deep down, she really does want to get the hang of this potty training thing; she’s just very cautious about it. She will decide she’s ready to move on when it’s the right time for her.