If you’re the parent of a toddler boy, there’s no need to worry that it will be a long haul. Some boys do get potty trained fast. And if you’re the parent of a toddler girl, don’t assume training will happen quickly. The secret to success is matching your potty training method to your child’s personality.
Some girls – especially free-spirited, shy and high-energy kids – often take a little longer than boys the same age. Remember, with all children potty training takes lots of patience and positive encouragement. So, buckle up for the ride!
The ease of training primarily depends on the child and their level of readiness, says parenting expert Michelle LaRowe, an author, professional nanny and editor in chief of eNannySource.com. Our Potty Training Readiness Quiz can help, and you can also watch for these signs.
Potty Training Girls vs. Boys
LaRowe has found girls are often ready to train earlier. Boys, she notes, “have to learn to standand sit.” Plus, they “generally mature later than girls.” Other experts suggest that boys start training by sitting since standing to pee is a more advanced skill.
Once boys are ready to start peeing while standing up, Dad or a big brother can help by demonstrating how it’s done. Also, there are some tried and true potty training tips to help them aim into the toilet. Try putting blue coloring in the bowl, which will turn green when the urine accurately gets into its target. You can also float some O-shaped cereal in the toilet bowl or potty chair and have your boy aim for them.
Getting your son’s aim right isn’t just a good thing for him — it can also save you a whole lot of cleaning hassle too. If you’re outside and no one’s around, you might try letting him pee in the grass — or better yet, “write” in the snow. That can take the pressure off aiming for the first few times he pees standing up.
Gary Cave, father of both a boy and a girl, admittedly did have an easier time training his girl, but he’s not convinced it has to do with gender.
“As a parent of a 3-year-old girl and a recently turned 2-year-old boy, I have had my fair share of experience with all things potty! Our oldest, Saffron, was relatively easy to train, although it did take around 4 months.
Our younger boy, Lucas, is just starting his potty training journey and we have already noticed that he is reacting very differently to it. It looks as though we will be in for a far tougher time with him. I have friends with boys and girls who have told me that their boy was easier to potty train, so I personally do not believe that any gender is easier than the other. There are many other factors at play.”
It all comes down to the individual child, agrees Maria Velasquez who has both a son and a daughter. While it’s not common, her 2½-year-old son trained in just a few days.
Because her son was so easy, she falsely believed it would be even easier with her daughter. Not so! “My strong-willed daughter took much longer and multiple failed attempts where we took week-long breaks in between,” she recalls. “Once she decided SHE wanted to learn, it took about two weeks to be accident free. I wish I had known that every child is different, and these differences play a big role in potty training.”
Potty Training Tips for All Kids
Whether you’re potty training a boy or a girl, there are some universal tips including these five secrets to potty training success.Consider this list of ideas too:
- Make sure they’re ready. If you thought your child was ready to start but the successes just aren’t coming, take a pause and restart your child’s journey in a few weeks or even months. These reasons to hold off are important to know too.
- Toss your expectations aside. There’s no perfect age to start and no guaranteed timeline — although on average potty training takes about eight months. You can check out these potty training milestones to see what’s common for kids, but don’t let anyone else’s experience or expectations pressure you into starting if your child isn’t ready.
If you start too soon, you’re just going to have a longer (and probably much more tiring!) experience ahead. Also, know that kids don’t usually learn to pee and poop on the potty at the same time. If they’re interested in just one, encourage them. Then they can translate that new skill and confidence into the other potty practice.
While there is no shortage of tips for parenting, when it comes down to it the only guarantee is that your own experience will be as unique as your child. Keep this in mind — and above all, be patient! Potty training will happen. And when it does, you and your child will have something big to celebrate for sure!